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Making a Commitment to Me
It’s a lot easier to see a relationship clearly once you’re not in it anymore. That’s the way it is with anything — sometimes your friends understand you in ways you can’t, your family accepts you,...
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Someone Like Me
The night I broke up with Mr. P, my best friend M had made the commute from the Upper West to the Lower East to keep me company since I knew no one at the party except Mr P’s sister. She arrived ready...
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Why Do You Love You?
Last Valentine’s Day, my two gay husbands (yes, two of them) sent me flowers (one with bacon, one growing in soil that I later killed). Another friend brought me a cupcake. And though I didn’t admit it...
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The Crack in the Door
When Mr. Possibility left to go overseas the first time, he wanted to stay with me his last night in New York. At that point there had been no discussions of what we were, no title, no commitment, no...
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It’s Funny That Way
I’m alone in New York. It’s raining and cloudy and though it’s half-way through March, it’s chilly outside and my luggage is getting wet. I’m wondering if I’ll like the girl whose couch I’m crashing...
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My Heart is Like a Skyline
I have a surprise for you, he whispered as he playfully kneaded my knee before returning both hands to the steering wheel. What kind of surprise? I teased, careful not to distract him from staying on...
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Why, Oh Why, Can’t I?
At the number 1 stop I board and arrive at, there’s a man who plays the guitar. He’s a little thing — probably no taller than me — and he wears a hat, even in this terribly unbearable heat. But he...
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Last Single Girl Standing
Waiting for my doorbell to ring the day after New Year’s, I anxiously anticipated the arrival of one of my dearest best friends, M. We were ordering cheap Chinese, exchanging Christmas presents and...
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When You Listen
It’s easy to ignore especially since it’s nearly impossible to detect unless you let yourself escape away with it. You can tune it out and pretend that you don’t hear the gentle, nudging — maybe even...
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Feelings Know Best
My friend A has a sense of adventure that I admire as much as I fear. She galivants around the world — by herself — hitch hiking and talking to strangers who quickly become stories in her never-ending...
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I Know Better
The second I saw him, I knew this night was a waste of a brand new dress from Urban. I really did know better. I really had been here before. This, actually was precisely the reason I stopped going on...
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I Don’t Have My Shit Together
Staring down at my hands, thinking about the scar on my right thumb and the pinky finger nail that always outgrows the rest, I did anything and everything to distract myself from the conversation I was...
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You Don’t Have to Be Okay With It
You don’t have to be okay with it. The guys who show up late or cancel 30 minutes before. The ones who can’t seem to remember your birthday but know your number at 2 a.m. The guys who lie about their...
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These Years of Freedom
Almost three years ago, I wrote a blog about a date with freedom. I still remember that day vividly, and in my memories of moving to NYC and making it feel like home here, it’s one of those experiences...
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You Can Be a Bitter Bitch
It came out after a bottle of white wine a few strongly mixed drinks. I could tell that after she said it, she questioned if it was the right word choice or if she should have been so frank. Our...
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I Tried to Hate Christmas
It snowed for the first (real) time in New York on Saturday. I woke up hazily hungover and tired, wondering how I’d ever make it to midtown east for Lucy’s vet appointment when my mouth still tasted...
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The Best of the Worst Pick Up Lines From 2013
It’s true -I’m a little hard on men. It’s not that I need a giant gesture or the perfect everything to be interested, but a clever — appropriate — message online or on an app goes a long way. Or dare I...
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14 Things I’m Giving Up in 2014
The past week has been unusually warm in Manhattan. The air feels crisp and inviting, the atmosphere of the streets lively and fresh, and the people – myself included – invigorated for a New Year. I...
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When You Suddenly Feel Lonely…
This weekend was one of those perfect ones in New York: full of celebrating, wine and laughter. I bounced between birthday dinners and themed parties, had long walks with Lucy and long talks with my...
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I Found Myself a Diamond
My friends know me as the daughter of a fiery, intelligent, mystical, mother. Though she’s paid the bills with accounting and massage therapy, she spends her free time focusing on those untold ways of...
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